Who'd have thought that being 'good' could be bad for you?

This is another idea I gleaned from Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way (week 5). Who’d have thought that being ‘good’ can actually be a trap for the creative?

Many people, caught in the virtue trap, do not appear to be self-destructive to the casual eye. Bent on being good husbands, fathers, mothers, wives, teachers, whatevers, they have constructed a false self that looks good to the world and meets with a lot of worldly approval. This false self is always patient, always willing to defer its needs to meet the needs or demands of another…

Julia Cameron, The Artist’s Way p.99

The creative’s desire to have time alone or to pursue creative pursuits is perceived as selfish. Does your life serve you, or only others?

If you want to know if you’ve fallen into this trap. Take the virtue trap quiz:

  1. The biggest lack in my life is…
  2. The greatest joy in my life is…
  3. My largest time commitment is…
  4. As I play more, I work…
  5. I feel guilty that I am…
  6. I worry that…
  7. If my dreams come true, my family will…
  8. I sabotage myself so people will…
  9. If I let myself feel it, I’m angry that I…
  10. One reason I get sad sometimes is…

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